Well first of all, exhale. You’re not alone, and although you may be feeling a multitude of different emotions right now, we can tell you from experience, “That’s ok – and perfectly normal!”
By seeking us out, you’re demonstrating the commitment that you already have to you and your family.
You need some help, like we all do at times, maybe just for someone to listen, or to encourage your young person to get some help with the problems that they’re facing – whether your young person considers them to be problems or not!
And at Youth Interventions, we don’t hold any prejudicial assumptions towards parenting. Unlike the teen that you’re worrying yourself sick about, we don’t believe that EVERYTHING is your fault! We know that adolescence is a time of experimentation and massive neurological pruning, and this often results in risky behaviours. Sometimes though, these behaviours become maladaptive and specialist help is needed to address them.
So, you’re important, for a number of reasons. We believe that parents and the concerned others of young people are vital components of the young person’s recovery capital and as such, we encourage your participation.
But more than this, we believe, is our ability to help empower you. Because when you have accurate information, when you believe that not everything is your fault, when you take responsibility for the actions that may contribute to negative behaviours from your young person, when YOU start to feel empowered – then this will transfer.
Together we can:
- Offer family support. There is a lot of comfort to be found when you realise that others are experiencing the same as you!
- Offer parenting advice and workshops – raising a teenager is a tricky time – experimentation is common – and is it useful to have advice and information on how to manage situations that occur with your young person if they have used substances
- Offer online chat and advice
- Inform and educate you on current drug trends and how to help your family member minimise risk and harm
- Offer support and counselling to those affected by addiction bereavement
- Help you to let go when you have done all that there is to be done except accept that this is not your fault.
We can also offer family interventions by:
- Assist your young person in establishing motivation to engage
- Help you to open a dialogue with your teenager
- Gather a wider, more accurate picture of the young person’s historical background in order to establish a context of use.
And that’s the first thing that we have to establish – what is problem substance misuse? For many concerned others, any use at all is problematic, and that is understandable. No-one wants their son, daughter, cared for young person to be using substances. So finding out that they are can be scary, and can lead to dramatic, knee jerk reactions.
But like we said at the beginning – exhale and let’s move forward with a planned course of action.
MODELS OF FAMILY INTERVENTIONS
Youth Interventions uses the CRAFT (Community Reinforcement & Family Therapy ) Behaviour Programme when working with young people and their families: Our aims are:
To enable parents and concerned others to assist their unmotivated loved ones into treatment, without conflict.
Reduce the stress and suffering of the concerned loves by:
- Reducing conflict
- Reducing stress
- Reducing any domestic violence/abuse – verbal, physical or both
Improving the lives of the young person, and the concerned others.
We won’t begin to tell you that this journey will be a smooth one, and we acknowledge that it will be difficult. It requires that YOU commit to this, as you are asking your young person to do – and it asks that you show consistency, patience, firmness and love.
It may also require you to ultimately let go. Which can be inconceivable to a loving parent.
But throughout it all, you will have our support, and the support of others who are experiencing the same as you.